Monthly Archives: September 2012

Self Reproach?

I’m very harsh on myself. Believe me, i know. I never let myself be satisfied or happy with the present situation. I raise the bar up every time I reach a previous standard I set. I constantly reproach myself for not being good enough, for not doing good enough. 

I constantly compare too. Its not the kind that derogates the other person; its rather one that shows me unchartered avenues and brilliance i’m yet to achieve.

Yet I do look for acceptance. I look for leniency and forgiveness. I want people to not only like me, but to look at me as one of the accomplished people they can set their bar against. I want this because this is something I never give myself. I never relent. I’m the beginning of my graph, the zero point.

And after all of this,I don’t like other people metting out the same judgement on me. I don’t even like it when someone tries to ‘boost my morale’ or tell me ‘Oh, you can do this. Just stay confident and practice!’……

All I think of then is, ‘Hey, what do u mean?! You think I cant do this? I lack confidence? Oh, I am better than u can ever imagine!! ‘ I know that may sound hypocritical and moronic, but we’re all human I guess.

I dont think I can say it better than Mr. Wilde, “There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves we feel no one else has a right to blame us.” ( Dammit! He always does it better than you, doesn’t he? 😛 )

Holding your own

I’ve done it many times before. Oh, its a piece of cake for me! I’ll get up tomorrow morning, mix up a few things, and Voila! There it will be, my desired Outcome! I’m confident. I’m good. I’m working to be better. I’m happy. I’m content. I want to move to better things, I can move to better things.

I leave a place. I decided to join a place. I’m happy. I chose well. Its gonna be an interesting adventure, i’ll enjoy the journey’s graph.

I’m at the new place, its BIG, its beautiful. Its what I wanted. Maybe better than what I wanted.

I’m Oh so confused! This is all so new. Intimidating! The first doubts creep in; Can i do this? Am I meant to be here?!

You’re an intelligent kid. You can do this. I brace myself up. Yes, the mornings are torturous; I tear myself awake from the strange world of helpless half-dreams, with the lingering feeling of  being out of place, only to start hyperventilating. I learn to wake up early to calm myself down. I learn to embrace the cool morning air during the long journey and let it relax my senses.

I enter the new place and feel like colossal gates closed on all logical, normal modes of life. I desperately try to look for my life like I knew it, draw connections, find even the smallest similarities. These things keep me going. They give me strength to wake up the next day.

Things settle. I settle. I even get some small successes. I change, I accept, I try to like the place.

But the place is not so accomodating. Its relentless. It rites of passage are far too many. It follows a system guarded by far too many sentinels. So even though you feel Initiated into the system, you’ve not even been Inducted.

I feel lost again. The same questions resurface; Can I do this?

New questions emerge. Was I ever meant to do this? Was my decision wrong?

But the worst are the realisations. I was not like this. I was a happy person. I lived life, and loved it. I was good at what I did. I got up with the content, self assured air of a Confident person. Yes, I was confident. I was satisfied. I aimed high and had the conviction to achieve the heights.

Now I’m just tired. I’m tired of being lost, intimidated, dissatisfied, unsuccessful. I’m tired of being in this new, unfamiliar place. I’m tired of the constant search for meaning in this life. I’m tired of the ‘What am I doing?’ and ‘Why am I doing this?’. Cause I don’t have an answer to them. I’m tired of not being me. I miss me.

So, what is the solution? The place is unfeeling, even resentful. Its nothing like I’ve seen before, I don’t understand it. Expecting it to change will be unhelpful and naive. Change can only be brought to dynamic things, things that are capable of adaptation. I may be tired, shaken sick by the shock of the new place being so incomprehensible. But I am capable of change.  I wanted this place to embrace me as i am. But it was not to be so. So, adapting, adjusting, doing things i never thought of, the way i never thought of. That will be the order of the day.

This may be the only lesson I learn here. That new places can be hard, unforgiving, and disagreeable to change. They can change you so much you forget what you were. They put you in unimaginable situations, unarmed. Does that mean I’ll lose? Does that mean I become a stoic spectator to my own life? No. I will change, cause I can. I’m better than the place. I will change, on my own terms. I will conquer this. I will build a new life, better than the old one I knew. I will be me again. A better me.

It may have been one lesson, but it was one hell of a lesson. I came, I saw. But I HELD MY OWN.

Being HonestlyNew

I’ve been told many times by people I consider intelligent that I was always “meant to blog”. I never really believed them. And hence, I’m new here. Obviously.

So why am I here now? I don’t think anything changed. I just taught myself its worth a try. And will not cause much harm 😛

And, what will I write about? I don’t think I have the slightest idea. Nor do I plan to wreck my brain in finding a dedicated idea for this blog. I will just write what I honestly feel and care about, because, well…..i’m PrettyHonest!

Let’s see how this goes…..